I have waited a log time to come around to marriage. I always thought that not having to get married was one of the benefits of being gay. Now that I can, I find myself challenged to imagine myself committing to another man without limits, in the full light of public knowledge. What was once unthinkable is now becoming commonplace. As Senator Schumer said about NYC Council Speaker Christine Quinn’s wedding as a symbol of gay-marriage acceptance, it is no longer a question of “if” but “when” it becomes a universally adopted part of the American way of life.