The problem is that this is not just about what Cynthia Nixon “feels.” It requires more rigorous thinking about what identity and choice really entail. Nixon’s comments further muddy a matter that sometimes seems to stem from a vast but rather simple confusion in American thinking. To paraphrase President Clinton, the question depends on what the meaning of “it” is. When I hear “it’s a choice” (or “it’s not a choice”), I can only make sense of the statement if I know if we’re discussing same-sex attraction or same-sex action.